Diary Collection: Roadtrip East | March 2018
March 23, 2018 - Commonplace Coffee House, Pittsburgh PA
We drove for over six hours yesterday. After a rough start with the rental car place. We almost didn't come, but I had a feeling we really needed this. We've been consumed with work for weeks. All-consuming thinking and planning and heavy-ness. We even went off the grid last weekend but it was work. Fun work, but work.
I like this well-lit coffee shop. It's hot in here. The sun is beaming through the window and I'm on the edge of sweating. The coffee is good though. The guy behind the counter is nice. He's your quintessential coffee barista. I think Pennsylvania is quite lovely. Snow covered hills all around.
As we drive for hours, we play the alphabet game and share past relationship patterns and current needs. 1.25 years later and there's still so much to learn.
March 24, 2018 - The Ecology of Change, NYC
With a group of people, environment and awareness are key. Here are some takeaways from the day:
- There's never a perfect time...to do anything. Especially the hard stuff.
- We must accumulate shitty reps.
- When we face new info, we can either alienate it or assimilate it.
- Come up with a game to get things done.
- The map is not the territory.
- Allow yourself to be in the environment you're in.
- Maybe it's not someTHING that needs to change, but somePLACE.
And of course, some questions to think on:
- Where are my optimal spaces?
- What's not working?
- What matters to me?
- What would cause me the least amount of shit?
- What am I aiming at?
- What do I need in order to thrive?
- What do I now know?
- What's obvious in my life/space/habits?
- What do I see as obstacles vs opportunities?
- What's causing me stress?
- What do I think about most often?
- What do I love? How can I bring more of that into my life?
- What satisfies me?
- What are the things that aren't getting me better?
The secret? Awareness, of body (self), sensory (world), and contextual (how are you in the world).
This stuff isn't a task to check off. It's an ongoing practice, every damn day.
As Chandler talked about FM Alexander, Kurt Lewin, and Moshe Feldenkrais, I wrote down, "What were their women like? Were they married? Did they have families?" I suppose I have some research to do there.
A thought that popped up, "What do I need to learn about my new world?" Since leaving my 9-5 agency job, my world has changed A LOT. My days and routines are different. A lot has changed. I am still me, but better.
We also discussed the feeling of, "A part of me wants to ______". I totally get this. I was just writing in my journal about how a part of me loves staying in bed and a part of me wants to get up and conquer the day. It's interesting to think about those "parts" and just hear them all out. Listen, then decide what you want to do.
Ultimately, I took away lots to think about with my environment. What spaces do I want to be in? When I'm writing, working, doing yoga, reading, relaxing, etc. My main space is my house now and I'm finding that it's hard to do all of those things in one space and thrive.
- Trust your gut. Be willing to trust yourself.
- Create a life that's swoon-worthy. It's all up to you.
- Life is kind of like driving on the PA turnpike - beautiful, alive, and possibly dangerous.
March 25, 2018 - Somewhere in West Virginia, 5pm
Wild and Wonderful. People are dying to go west, but have you ever driven through the mountains of West Virginia?
We stopped a few times in the mountains to take in the view. It's absolutely breathtaking and I had no idea. West Virginia has never really crossed my mind. Now? It's easily one of my favorite places.
March 26, 2018 - Thomas, WV
I'm wildly, weirdly in love with this place.
-- free write --
What's my real shit? Love. Satisfies me. Fires me up. Turns me on.
writing. things that make me smile. quirky artists. mellow music. meaningful lyrics. quality food. local food. not quinoa. not tons of cheese and bread. not vodka. not ketchup. not surface level fitness. not shitty fitness food. emotion. mud. sunshine. ocean. beach. reading. truth bombs. wine. craft cocktails. IPA & sour beer. boujee coffee. hip coffee shops. migo. mazunte. tacos. margs. writing while laying on my belly. heavy blankets and fat pillows. my long hair. belly shirts. my finger nails. my smile. laying at the park. off the grid. treats and snacks. Kombucha.
March 27, 2018 - Thomas, WV
Small town feels. Every time someone walks in the ladies in the chairs greet them by their names. It's so cute. I could stay here forever.
It's a rainy day today, which I'm grateful for. I love rainy days. I wonder who all of these small town people are. I want an espresso machine. How lucky this little town is to have a coffee shop so great. It makes me smile.
- What's the best I can do today?
- How do I nourish this relationship?
- If Facebook didn't exist would I reach out to certain people? Do they exist outside of Facebook in my world?
We all need help from other people. Not just a partner or self. It takes a village to stay sane. but we have to let others help us.
The trip was wonderful. 6 days away from regular life. Exploring. laughing, driving, singing, and being.
If you're looking for some killer restaurants and places to go, here's the rundown:
- Pittsburgh, PA - The Commonplace Coffeehouse
- New Jersey - Orale (tacos, duh). Talde (asian).
- NYC - Hu Kitchen. Doughnut Plant.
- Washington D.C. - Little Red Fox (lunch)
- Thomas, WV - The Purple Fiddle (live music & local beer). Front Street Grocers (local grocery store). TipTop (Coffee). Creature & The White Room (art galleries).
P.s. Do you like blog posts like this? I write in my journal every day and am thinking about bringing more of that to life here. But a lot of it is ramblings, weird dreams, and streams of thought. Do you want more of that? Please let me know